When we are stressed, it’s quite easy to develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward and break through the stress cycle. Practicing positive thinking helps to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck.

Practical Suggestions

The following tips give practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns.

10 ways to kick stress1. Take Good Care of Yourself

It’s easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For

Stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions

A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member’s bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don’t waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes

Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late!” or complained to a friend “You NEVER call me!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like ‘always’ and ‘never’ makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Detach From Negative Thoughts

Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don’t follow it.

6. Squash the “ANTs”

In his book “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!” When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Friends and Family)

You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch!

If you’ve never experienced an AromaTouch Hand Massage, check out this video. You’ll want to have some AromaTouch oil blend on hand.

Other essential oils to consider for muscle tension include:

  • Wintergreen
  • Lemongrass
  • Deep Blue
  • Past Tense

8. Increase Your Social Activity

By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person

Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination

If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It’s never productive, because it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s just excessive worry and stress. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

You can also try these essential oils:

  • Frankincense: Try applying a drop to the bottom of your feet when you feel the need to relax and balance your mood.*
  • Vetiver: The wonderful grounding aroma of this essential oils makes it a good one to diffuse when you sense that rumination pattern setting in. It can also be applied to pulse points to help quiet the mind.*

It’s important to understand the signs of stress and react with a positive way of handling it such as these 10 tips. The key to busting stress is making sure that you look after YOU. As your happiness levels increase, your stress levels decrease. Have a look at your work life, your personal life and social life to see if there are any areas you can create more happiness. You might be surprised on what you find.

More Essential Oil suggestions

Here are some other essential oils to try.


Serenity is a RESTFUL BLEND that has a calming and relaxing aroma.  It is a combination of Lavender Flower, Cedarwood, Ho Wood Leaf, Ylang Ylang Flower, Marjoram Leaf, Roman Chamomile Flower, Vetiver Root, Vanilla Bean Absolute, Hawaiian Sandalwood..

You can use this blend in the following ways:

  • Apply to bottoms of feet at bedtime to help unwind before going to sleep.
  • Inhale directly from hands or diffuse throughout the day to help lessen tension. It is a wonderful blend to diffuse at bedtime.
  • Add 2–3 drops into a warm bath with Epsom salts to create a relaxing experience.
  • Apply 2–3 drops with a carrier oil to the back of the neck or on the heart for feelings of calmness and peace.


The warm, woody aroma of Balance is why it is considered a GROUNDING BLEND.  The scent promotes tranquility and relaxation.

Spruce, one of the oils in Balance, was used by Native Americans for health and spiritual reasons and is still used today to bring harmony to the mind and body. Ho Wood, Blue Tansy, and Blue Chamomile can ease anxious feelings, while Frankincense provides a grounding, balancing effect on emotions.

You can use it in the following ways:

  • Begin your day by putting Balance on the bottom of your feet. It will remind you to feel calm and tranquil.
  • Apply to your wrists or neck to help ease anxious feelings. Be sue and dilute the oil with a carrier oil to minimize skin sensitivity.
  • Diffuse to create a calming, soothing environment.
  • Make a Liquid Stress Relief Roller Bottle as described in the video.

Oils for Worry

Sometimes, when we are under stress, we begin to worry. Worry can distract us and make life more difficult.

Adding essential oil use to your life can remind you to set aside your worries and encourage you to return to a peaceful, calm state.

This unsettling feeling is a frequent side effect of coping with too much stress. We’re not talking about the regular sort of worry that we all experience, but rather the excessive, constant worry that feels like a burden on your shoulders that just won’t lift.

A few oils to help with this are:

  • Wild Orange
  • Balance
  • Frankincense
  • InTune
  • Peace

A few other oils to consider

Elevation: This is a wonderful, uplifting scent. Diffuse it during the day. Or, add it to your bath following the tips in this post. 

Lavender: This oil has many uses. Known for its calming properties*, this is one many use as part of their bedtime rituals.

Hawaiian Sandalwood: The grounding and uplifting properties of this oil make it idea for use during meditation – a practice that helps some people deal with stress.

Need support selecting which oils to use? Contact me to schedule a 30 minute consultation. Or, if you know what you want, jump in and place an order.

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